Marital Compatibility: What Couples Get Wrong About Marriage

Emily Cowen, a musical artist I enjoy sings, “Even though we just met, these feelings are so beautiful, you and me were meant to be together.” And that is where “love” songs get love wrong. You’ve just met, the feelings are beautiful so, goodness gracious, you must be meant to be together.

If we’re honest about parenting, we’ll feel so much better

When Louise McSharry was pregnant with her first son Sam, now two-and-a-half years old, she had certain assumptions about what motherhood would be like. “I thought that overnight I would become this patient and benevolent creature, who would never use a harsh word and who would never be frustrated, and that all of my selfishness would go away.”

How can marriage be good for mental health?

The couples were measured for physiological responses like heart rate and respiration. Later, trained coders analyzed the tapes for emotional responses such as anger, sadness and humor. “These give us a pretty good snapshot of the nature of their relationship,” says study senior author Robert Levenson, a UC Berkeley psychology professor.